Jenn !! The Mommy always is !! (In my house anyway). My husband will just put my daughter back in her bed & then fall asleep on the floor waiting for her to go back to sleep.

This is such a great site. I found it about two weeks ago, and I'm hooked. All of the detailed information is fascinating, and the pictures are beautiful. I went back through all of them and watched a baby grow up before my eyes. Incredible and intriguing. I also really enjoy the stories; Ben, I think you are a gifted (and quite entertaining) writer. Trixie is truly the most adorable baby I've ever seen.

My vote is for you, Ben...in our house, Daddy is the pushover. I don't even HEAR my boys wake up in the middle of the night, and the older one knows to go to Daddy's side of the bed if you want any sort of response!

My guess is mom, since she doesn't see her during the day so she misses her more. I'm kind of impressed that you were both able to get up in the morning without waking her.

daddys the push over in our house, so i say Ben. as long as Aidens got a clean bum and a full belly...hes allowed cuddles and then back to bed. in our house daddy is the one who says 'let him stay' and then promptly passes out and leaves me being kicked all night.. lol. i hope she isnt the wiggleworm that aiden is!

its my fault in our house, but only because my husband sleeps like the dead and wouldnt hear a train going through the living room. which means he doesnt mind the kicking either. *sigh*

I don't know who's fault it is, but if Trixie was really only awake for 3 minutes (according to the sleep chart), was it that bad of an idea?? :) I wouldn't think once a month is that bad, but then, I don't have kids yet.

By the way you worded it, sounds like you are the guilty party.

I vote for Ben as the guilty party...only because in my house, it's always Maddie's Dad who give in (also about once a month). Appreciate the validation, though...nice to know others do the same things we're warned against!

I'll 'fess up later this evening, and reveal who's to blame. In the meantime, I set up a new poll (on the Trixie Update homepage) so we can see how everyone else fares.

Only once per month... It's the reverse with us. My 11 month old ends up in the bed most nights because I can't think straight at 1, 2, 3 or 4 a.m. when she squacks. She sleeps through the night in her crib only on rare occasions. And then we wake up looking around the bed frantically, "where's the baby?" The cat sleeps with us most nights too.

I could have chosen "family bed" but I'm not ready to embrace that label yet :)

I vote for Trixie. She looks so cute, though. We let Sophie come in our bed in the middle of the night almost every night - she sleeps much later that way and she snuggles up. I think she started doing this around age 2.5 - maybe we've regressed, but it's working for us. Also, it's only since we got a king size bed that this works.

Just realized I posted again under my email addie, shdemeritt. Not trying to go under-cover b/c of my lenient ways - I confess, as Hannah, that our girl gets in the bed w/us almost every night.

If this worked for us I would SO be the culprit. (I'm always the rulebreaker) As it is, being put in our bed equals playtime to Oscar so it never works when I try it. I'm always convinced if I could just lay on top of him he'd go to sleep. Instead he starts smacking daddy's back - let's play let's play!

I'm guessing Ben is the protocol breacher. After enforcing rules all day it's easy to break them, exhausted, in the middle of the night.

I seems so natural and loving, and it is. The problem comes when you DON'T want her in the bed, and she doesn't understand...perhaps when a new baby joins the family...or when her visits become twice a month, then weekly, and then nightly. I tried very hard to no have to UNDO something later...I'd rather lie for a second in my child's bed than have them in mine and later feel rejected when it was not feasable or appropriate. They are now 18 and 21...and they are each independant, loving, and fine for it.

Happy 20-month birthday, Trixie!

Wow... you're no longer a teenage toddler. I see you celebrated the milestone by breaching your way into a most comfy looking bed! Good for you! ;-)

Hi Yall, this is my first post and visit, I have 4 girls who are nearly grown and I can tell you that when she grows up and doesn't fit in your bed anymore, you will miss it a lot so don't feel too guilty about getting those snuggles while she's little enough to get away with it .. they grow faster than you're ready for and you can't rewind once it happens! Snuggle and enjoy. (P.S. thanks for sharing your baby with the world, you are so blessed.)

I'm *totally* the roundheel in casa FrumDad. Part of it is because I grew up in a very co-sleepy family, and I actually secretly harbor a belief that it's better. HW grew up in a very NOT-co-sleepy family, and is appalled. But Rachel and I are bringing her around a little.

But really, most of it is because if we've got one of those nights where Rachel's up at all hours, I can plop her in the bed and go into a kind of half-sleep fugue state, where I'm awake enough to make sure she's not in any danger but otherwise asleep.

And lemme tell ya, that's a good skill!

--FD

in my family (by that, I mean my mom, her husband, and their daughter) there is no instigator. Carol Ann co-sleeps, as she's done most of her life. She's 3 now.

Mom's starting to look forward to having her in her own bed, but there's no rush. She'll go when she's ready. :)

Remember...at 3am...it's all about...Me!...what is the quickest way I (Mommy) can get back to sleep? If they come to the edge of the bed (the ideal because then I don't have to get out of bed), I grab them right in, in two seconds everyone is back to sleep. When they were in the crib, if they called, I did the "scoop and run" --scoop them up and bring them to our bed, again everyone back to sleep in two seconds. Now, that they are 8 and 4 1/2, they rarely call or come in anymore...sniff.sniff...but if they do call, I climb right into their bed (they both have full size beds. If you have the space, forget twin size beds!) Again, back to sleep in 2 seconds. It's all about sleepy me!

It's Jenn. Every time.

Yea!!!!!!!!!!!!
I guessed right.

I think I may have FINALLY learned my lesson when it comes to bringing Sabrina into bed. I think the last time we did it was when we had a "Family Nap" on Christmas Morning. She is too enamored with crawling and simultaneously chasing both the cat and the remote control. She can make it across a king sized bed in 2 seconds flat! So also love two fisting my hair, or poking her father in the eye, or kicking him in the, well, you can guess... :-) I do, however, lay and nurse her on the couch in the morning sometimes, and we can both grab an extra hour or so.

So Jenn, inquiring minds want to know - what motivates you to bring Trixie to bed? Is it b/c you want her there, b/c she looks so cute and sweet in her Wordsworthian state of innocence while asleep? And you can snuggle? (this is what drives me now). Or is it just the path of least resistance to getting yourself back to sleep? (this is what used to motivate me). I'm not surprised it's not benmac, that daddy defies the stereotype of the pushover dad - he's a hardass.

since your confession that it is was that old tender heart that does this, I remind you that the very act is why mothers are part of the tender trap (never saw the movie but the name says it all)

Hmmm. Most of my friends whose kids sleep in cribs say that the Dads are the most frequent lapsers so I vote for Dad. Could be way off, as this is my first time at the site and have no feel for the mommy and daddy! Our gal sleeps with us everynight, all night. We like it like that and so does she. But I know it is not for everyone.

We let our children come into our room at night, but we only let them sleep on the floor. Kind of a middle ground I guess -- just have to be careful where you step!

Yep, I'm the softie. Usually I just want the crying to stop and bringing her in with us is the easiest way. But it is a nice plus that Trixie is at her most snuggly in the middle of the night.